Some federal laws apply to conditions that may be included in a pre-marital contract. The Withdrawal Equity Act (REA) of 1984, signed on August 23, 1984 by President Ronald Reagan, reconciled confusion over whether ERISA anticipated state divorce laws, thereby preventing pension plans from complying with court injunctions granting a spouse a portion of the worker`s pension in a divorce decree.  A matrimonial agreement may include exceptions whererightly agrees to revoke all rights against the other`s pension benefits arising from state and federal marriage laws, as in the context of the REA. However, if carefully designed and used properly, a marriage agreement can be a fair way to distribute assets and responsibilities. In the past, couples have entered into pre-marriage agreements with some uncertainty as to their validity. Today, the presumed validity and applicability of such agreements is no longer at issue in states that have adopted UPAA/UPMAA, including Florida, Virginia, New Jersey and California.  A marriage agreement does not solve all the problems you may have with your spouse. Find out what a pre-marriage contract can and cannot do to protect you and your spouse`s interests. Premarital mediation is another way to create a conjugal arrangement. In this process, a mediator facilitates an open discussion between the couple on all kinds of marriage issues, such as expectations regarding post-birth work and savings and spending styles, as well as traditional pre-marital discussions on real estate sharing and spousal assistance when the marriage is over. The engaged couple makes all decisions about what would happen in the event of separation or divorce with the help of the mediator. They then design either a memorandum of agreement or a pre-marital agreement and have them checked by their respective lawyers. A developed agreement on mediation is usually cheaper because fewer hours are spent with lawyers, because the couple made all the decisions together, instead of one side against the other.
[Citation required] A prenup cannot contain personal preferences, for example. B who has what tasks, where to spend the holidays, whose name should be used, details about the education of children or the relationship with certain parents. Marriage contracts are supposed to deal with financial matters. Preventive measures that address non-financial issues are not maintained. Judges become uncomfortable if they see private cases contained in a contract, and will often view the document as reckless and bring it down. If you and your spouse want to have an agreement on this kind of thing, do so in a separate document with which the court does not have the authority to intervene.